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She made me slap her…he forced me to lie…like if she actually took his hand and slammed it on her face. Funny when we think of it, but kind of scary when we think about the lack of accountability, responsibility for one’s action, the blaming game. It is also saying that we do not have control over our actions. Of course actions can be the consequences  of our emotions and our emotions are sometimes slipping away from our control. However, should we  live our life expecting that we do not have choices? Should we stand for no individual freedom?

Because we are talking about freedom here! Freedom is not necessarily about doing what we want

when we want regardless of consequences. Freedom is about choices. It is about happiness! I suggest a good read with Barry Schwartz the “Paradox of Choice.”

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Letting Go

It was great to see how many of you enjoyed reading about ways of letting go of the past! Thank you.

So there is more to “letting go” than just establishing goals for the future, getting rid of old stuff and expressing our remorse. It also takes three more steps.

4-     Reset Your Story

Step back and allow yourself to reset your story with more exactitude, more honesty without the hurt, fear and loss that made you feel so rattled at the time of the break. See that with more empathetic eyes you will probably gain freedom and growth from a place of personal injury.

5-     Forgive

Is it possible? Only after your anger will not help any longer…when you anger becomes destructive rather than proactive, it is time to decide to forgive. Don’t forget to tell someone!

You may also need to forgive yourself at times. Well then, do it and change your behavior: don’t insult your husband, pay your fine, spend time with your child and apologize. Do something beyond repairing, offer to do something significant to show your remorse and on the advice of Dr. Sills remember that “good judgment comes from experience; experience comes from bad judgment.”

6-     Live The Present

Our strongest emotions bind us to the past and link us to the future bypassing the present. But we only live in the present, so let’s be mindful of what’s happening now. Let’s get involved and engaged into the present. Focusing on the now will free you from the past and prepare you for the future while giving some rest to all those hot emotions that are using so much of your energy!

Watch the butterfly and notice its designs and colors…you will have gained already few minutes of bliss…and as the “Love Guru” said you will walk from “NOwhere to NOWhere”.

Please comment or share your experience and remember to use kindness.

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